Anna Williamson is a life coach, counsellor, author and TV and radio broadcaster known for presenting E4’s Celebs Go Dating. Here she gives advice on dating during lockdown.
According to some reports, the average cost of a date in the UK is £127.
Wow, I don’t know about you, but that seems like an extraordinary amount of money!
So it may, perhaps, come as a bit of a silver lining for those currently on the dating scene that the only way they can ‘hook up’ during the coronavirus lockdown is from the comfort of their own home, virtually.
Dating is always best when it’s in person. There is nothing that can rival all of your senses fizzing at being in somebody’s company; that initial hug, the awkward tip-toeing around each other, the “do I kiss him/her?”
But when we aren’t able to be together we have to embrace other means and, in actual fact, dating via online video call can actually be hugely effective. Most importantly, it’s loads of fun!
There are lots of options out there - sometimes overwhelmingly so - but it’s important to not spread yourself too thin and join every single dating app under the sun.
Just keep it to one or two apps or websites.
Choose one that best suits you. There really is one for everybody nowadays depending on your sexual preference, religion, age, love intentions - you name it.
Confide in close friends to see if there are any in particular they can recommend. A tried and tested approach is always going to help ease any nerves.
Keep your dating profile authentic and appealing. Imagine you were applying for a really enticing job and you wanted to get the best version of yourself across.
Look natural - don’t try too hard and wear something too formal or over the top. Choose smart casual and perhaps wear an accessory or a statement ‘lip’ to subtly stand out.
If you match a date, once you’ve had a bit of introductory chat, arrange a ‘date night in’ - FaceTime, Skype, WhatsApp and Zoom all offer free video calls.
Put as much effort in as you would on a usual face-to-face date. Spruce yourself up and wear something that says ‘I’ve made an effort’ but is comfortable - jeans and a nice top never fail.
The good news for ladies who like wearing blister-inducing heels is that they’re not required. Spritz yourself with some scent and you’re good to go.
Decide on an activity or something fun to do. Talking can feel quite forced and awkward at first, so doing something can create a really good distraction and allow you to relax with each other whilst finding out more about their personality at the same time.
Cocktail making, cooking dinner together ‘virtually’, playing a game or quiz can all be great ways to get to know one another while having some fun at the same time.
Conversation is key. Have a few interesting facts, stories or anecdotes about yourself ready to share and ask ‘open’ questions to find out about your date too.
Once the date has come to a natural end, be honest... have you enjoyed it?
What do you like about them? Thank them for their time and if you’d like to ‘see’ them again, say it. If it’s not for you, that’s perfectly ok and it’s the polite thing to tell them that.
So just because we’re having to stay in, it doesn’t mean you can’t ‘get out there’ still.
Dating is something everyone can and should enjoy, regardless of how and where it can take place.
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