SINGAPORE – Picture this: your friends have set you up with a blind date. You hardly know this person and you're hoping the night wouldn't turn out to be an awkward one.
To help you plan your night better, we asked the team behind NADA (Not.A.Dating.App), a local dating service, for some constructive tips.
Here are a few tips on what to say on your blind date.
Take a deep breath, and relax
Even if you are keen to go on a blind date, it doesn’t necessarily mean that you won’t feel a bit nervous meeting new people for the first time. The team at NADA suggest that you get some moral support to bolster your confidence before the date.
“Talk to your friends about your nerves, send them a picture of your outfit and get them to hype you up. Try to remind yourself, the person you’re going on a date with is just as nervous as you! You’re both on the hot seat, and you’re both asking questions and answering questions.”
Great icebreaker questions
According to the team at NADA, the first date is “all about striking a balance between keeping things light and fun, and getting to know someone”.
“When walking into a blind first date, you have zero background knowledge of the person. The typical introduction might seem trite, but it’s always good to start with some context (while still keeping things relatively light). We’d recommend a simple: ‘So, what do you do?’.”
Other good blind date questions include:
What’s the last thing that made you deeply happy?
What has informed your philosophy of love?
What were you like in Primary school?
After you’ve got a bit of an idea about the other person’s personality, you can move onto questions with a bit more depth to them, like ‘What are you looking for?’. The NADA team say this is a “great way to evaluate if you are both on the same page from the get-go, instead of wasting each other’s time”.
Do they like you?
So, once you’ve asked and answered a few questions to warm up, and you have decided that at least someone is of interest, how do you find out if they are interested in you too?
The NADA team agrees that this can be a bit tricky but that there are a few signals to watch out for.
Look at their body language: Are they leaning in and listening intently? Are they engaging in eye contact with you? You can also see if they are interested in the next step. Are they talking about seeing you again? Have they taken the initiative to plan the next date?
Remember that a blind date is just that, a meeting with someone you don’t know. You might find your perfect match, or you might make a great new friend. Either way, you will have had an experience and a bit of fun too.
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