MOMS have always been the unsung heroes and during this pandemic, working moms are tested in balancing household responsibilities, virtual meetings, homeschooling and other commitments while keeping the kids entertained and the family safe in this challenging time.
Ayala Center Cebu caught up with seven empowered moms as they share their stories, tips and insights about balancing full-time work and family life at home:
Gretchen Choa, businesswoman, and mom of two boys
“Understand that ‘balance’ doesn’t mean equal, it just means that you are happy with the choices you have made. Some days you could work while having the extra time to leisurely make dinner with your kids and play board games with them after. While other days, work needs more attention, so you order food; turn on Netflix to occupy your kids’ entertainment. Do not feel bad. You are not alone in this. Some hacks do help ease the mom guilt, here are some of them: 1. Delegate/ask for help. 2. Plan ahead—I am a planner, so I have learned to lay out my top three goals in a week and top five main tasks I want to achieve in a day. 3. Realize that sometimes you need to compromise, and that is okay. ”
Kristine Kokseng, product development manager at Golden Cowrie, and mom of three
“As a working mom, it was a difficult situation to be in as we were tackling problems and challenges in the restaurant, trying to shift from a dine-in to a delivery-based resto and at the same time helping and guiding the kids with online school.
It was easy to lose your cool and it was very important for me to be conscious about that. We had constant talks (and we still do), with the kids about their challenges and ours too so there would be a better understanding of one another's situation. And as a homemaker, it did not stop with kids but also with the team that I work with at home. It was important for me to make sure that our help at home was adjusting well too. Coming up with activities for the kids and the help at home was something we did during the first six months until we reached a point where we were used to the fact of being home."
Kd Tiu, owner of Cabana Cebu, and mother of two
“I’ve accepted that there’s no perfect work-life balance so I just ride the waves and manage my expectations. If things don’t go as planned, I try not to waste my time dwelling on it and just move on to being more productive. It is also important to try to let go of mom guilt. I’m able to keep things together because I have a strong support system. It really takes a whole village to handle my businesses and our household at the same time and I’m pretty grateful for them. “
Dyan Gayas, proprietress of Nono By Dyan, and mother of two
“As a working mom, I make sure everything is scheduled and plotted. I try my best to work only on Tuesdays to Fridays and every other weekend between 9:30 a.m. and 1:30 p.m. only. So I can still have time to prepare food and other needs at home and spend more time with my kids and family.”
Tiffany Tan, IT entrepreneur, artist, and mom of two
“I find it very important to keep my long-term plan in mind as I go about my day-to-day activities. I am a visual person, so I have a clear picture of where I see myself and my family in five years or ten years down the road. I work backwards from my future goals and take steps today to bring myself and my family closer to those goals. Having a clear vision helps me to keep the balance between my roles. Taking care of my physical, mental and emotional health is essential so that I can find clarity in my vision. I take breaks as needed, allocate time for my hobbies and for regular exercise. It’s important for me so that I don’t get burned out and lose sight of my vision.”
Gillian Uang-Uy, interior designer, and mom.
“Try to let go of mom guilt! It’s okay to do something for yourself once in a while to help you recharge.”
Kim Gothong, wife, entrepreneur, resource speaker, and mom of three
“It’s all about setting priorities. This may seem a little technical but I employ Stephen Covey’s Time Management Matrix. I categorize my to-do’s into four quadrants: urgent and important, not urgent but important, urgent but not important and not urgent and not important.
This matrix somehow guides me on how I go about my day or week. Sometimes, this may all get jumbled up but I somehow always find my way back.
To avoid burnout, once in a while I step back and re-center through physical activity, baking and of course, a good Kdrama marathon.
We moms, can’t keep pouring from an empty cup. When we learn to love ourselves, then we can take care of others better.”
This Mother’s Day, it’s time to honor and celebrate all the hardworking moms and mother figures for their unconditional love, courage and sacrifices. This special day allows families to bond and make mom smile in different ways. One can take mom to an al fresco dining at The Terraces, just order from her favorite restaurants and have them deliver the food at the specially curated al fresco in the area, or surprise mom with some gift ideas at the Activity Center with her favorite brands.
Those who are too busy to head out can order their gifts via ANA. With a minimum spend of P3000, one gets a special Bomb Cake from Cakes by Nicole or Mango Toffee Jr. from Banapple. One can also add a special touch to his surprise and say it with flowers, have them arranged on the spot at the Drive Buy station along Cardinal Rosales Ave. near Torque Lounge.
Empowered moms and all the important women in everyone’s life needs to be celebrated and thanked this Mother’s Day at Ayala Center Cebu. The region’s premier lifestyle destination keeps amazing going while continuing to provide a clean, healthy and safe environment for all. For more information and updates, one can like @AyalaCebu on Facebook and follow @AyalaCenterCebu on Twitter and Instagram. SPONSORED CONTENT