M: A LOT of friends ask how they can make the most of the new decade. Well, I’ve read an article that says that if you want to be successful, hang around successful people. If you want to build a business with leaders, be a great leader. If you want to marry the right person, be the right person. You always attract what you are.
DJ: I agree that in the overall scheme of things, we usually attract who we are. If we want someone really bad, we’ll most likely end up with someone really bad. It’s hard to produce a positive result from a negative plan or course of action. The fruit is never far from the tree. Love attracts love. Grumpiness attracts grumpiness. We reap what we sow. We harvest what we plant.
M: If we constantly have friends who are negative, or if we find that things always seem to go wrong with what we do and who we do it with, then we may want to take a long and hard look at ourselves in the mirror. First things first, we cannot give what we do not have. If you are not proud of who you are and what you are doing, how would you ever earn the respect of your people? So rather than complaining about other people, start with working on ourselves because it’s easier to change yourself than change the whole world.
DJ: There was once a story about a king who offered a bounty of $5,000 for each wolf captured alive. It turned Gazini and Catriona into fortune hunters. Day and night they scoured the mountains and forest looking for their valuable prey. One night, they became so exhausted that they fell asleep on the ground, dreaming of their potential fortune. Suddenly, Catriona woke up to discover that she and Gazini were surrounded by at least 50 angry wolves with flaming eyes and bared teeth. She nudged her companion and said, “Gazini, wake up! We’re rich!” The story sounds off topic but it underscores the difference our attitude toward life makes.
M: Business philosopher Jim Rohn once said: “Your success in life has very little to do with the economy. Your success in life has everything to do with your attitude. And if this is so, you better work harder on yourself than you do on your job.”
DJ: We always have a choice no matter what. Yes, more often than not, we become who we hang out with. The people we choose to surround ourselves with can elevate us in as much as they can bring us down. It’s been said that we are the average of the five people we spend most of our time with. But it’s also key to be mindful of the person that we are on the inside. Whatever exists in our mind, whatever is the state of our heart, can largely influence our choices, our circumstance, and our environment. They can attract or repel the people and experiences we want or do not want. Protect your mind and heart and fill them with positivity. Be the right person this year. Be with the right people too.