Palmares-Moises: Booby decision

Michelle Palmares, Darwin Moises
·4 min read

M: May is a financial advisor. At 32, she wants to have her boobs done in 2021. Should she or should she not have one? She wants to hear our opinion. Wow! I am amazed that she is asking our opinion about a boob job. Since I’ve never had one (thankfully I am blessed in that area) and since you, DJ, is also not competent about the matter, I believe she should refer the matter to a doctor to see if she can undergo the surgery. I understand there are laboratory or medical tests to be done to see if one is physically fit to undergo a certain medical procedure.

DJ: I may be familiar with the object but not the procedure. May’s query, though, is interesting enough to do a bit of research. One South Korean survey actually found that more than 60 percent of women in their late 20s and 40 percent of women in their early 20s went through at least one cosmetic procedure. Enhancements are on the rise in a time when everyone is trying very hard to look as great as possible. A boob job is among the most popular. It adds volume to the breast which helps fill out clothing better and create more cleavage. Change is instantly recognizable. Her quarantine transformation is truly unparalleled in this regard.

M: I think, though, May is asking our opinion if it is proper to have one considering the pandemic and the order of priorities as a boob job is hardly one of primordial importance at this time. But why not? If May wants to have a bigger and bolder — literally and figuratively — future in front of her, why not go for it? If it will make her happier, more confident about herself and if it’s her own money, what is stopping her from doing so? She doesn’t have to ask us for an opinion, especially since we have no evidence or proof that she needs one.

DJ: Cosmetic surgery is already becoming normalized these days. Getting work done is now more accessible and acceptable. I assume cost is already out of her question. Now if she’s curious what guys think about it, there’s frankly an overall bias toward the healthy shape. We don’t care that much whether it’s real or man-made. I’d like to tell her, though, that having a generous bosom is not a prerequisite for a lady to be attractive. The decision is really up to her. I also suggest she conducts thorough research before she opts for a surgeon who will perform the procedure. Entrusting her boobs into the wrong hands is one of the worst things that can happen. Just a word of caution: having a boob job deals with aesthetics only. If she’s expecting perfection that will make her look like she’s stepping out of a commercial every single moment of her life, augmenting her boobs will not augment her lack of belief in herself. But if she goes through the process with realistic and balanced expectations, doing so will greatly improve the quality of her life. Studies do show that women who had breast augmentation reveal overall improvement in their self-esteem and happiness with their appearance after surgery. So if tweaking her boobs to conform into a certain standard can make her even happier, why not?

M: This New Year is a time for new beginnings, changes and opportunities for growth and development. So, if she wants her breast size to grow and develop into something bigger, firmer and perkier, in other words better for her self-confidence or self-esteem, here is my advice: go, grow and glow! Happy New Year!

DJ: Certainly, there’s an element of risk involved and I leave that part for her doctor to address. As long as a person isn’t doing something illegal or acts widely considered to be immoral, time taught me to be respectful of people’s choices. It’s May’s body. It’s her call. If we let people bungee jump, why shouldn’t we let her take the risk in the pursuit of higher self-esteem?