M: Candy is being paired with Josh who is in the same account she’s in at work. The teasing has been persistent. Everyone’s expecting them to be a couple. But Candy likes George. And she thinks George is not making a move because he thinks she likes Josh. What to do? First, tell her closest friends at work to stop teasing her with Josh. The teasing might also be awkward for Josh who might also like someone else. Like George! Kidding aside, she should let them know that while the teasing is fun and enjoyable for others, she is no longer comfortable with it. Then maybe she can talk to Josh to set things straight as he might actually like being paired with her before she makes the move on George. But before that, she should do some checking if George is not interested in someone else, and maybe that is why he is not making the moves on her.
DJ: Candy can politely tell her friends to stop pairing her with Josh. What if it still persists? Ignore them. Her office mates are most likely just doing it to relieve the boredom of routine. People eventually get tired teasing others when they don’t get a reaction. Now what about George? The eyes are the windows of the soul. The first step is to open such a window. How? Make good eye contact. But I don’t mean stare. There is a thin line that separates the two and I leave it up to her to regulate that. Smiling helps as well. It makes her appear friendly.
M: Having a romantic interest at work can be a good way to spice up the usual daily grind. We are usually at our best when we are inspired or have something or someone to look forward to seeing almost every day. But having a romantic relationship at work with a work mate can also be complicated. You can also lose focus especially when things aren’t good between the two of you.
DJ: Crushes on a co-worker can get cluttered for a variety of reasons. But if office romance is not against company policy, exploring this area at this point wouldn’t hurt. Everyone likes a little flattery every once in a while. She can start by pointing out something she likes not with his appearance but about what he did. Aside from making him feel good, it’ll also show that she’s noticing him. How can she tell if he likes her, too? Unless he tells her, she can never be certain. But I can give her some tips. Does he offer to help her out? An act of service is an expression of love. Does he notice small details about her? He’s probably observing her, too. Does he make an effort to remember her stories? Guys are not good with remembering the little things. When he does, it can mean something. Is he initiating a chat with her on social media or messaging apps? This can mean he wants to spend his personal time with her. Now if she feels she’s sending the right cues and not getting anything back, George may be trying to politely let her know he’s not interested. What if that’s really the case? She can continue to be her charming self and the right guy for her will notice it.
M: It takes balance to manage a romantic relationship when sharing a workplace. Yes, it can inspire but it can also cause despair, jealousy or envy as when other people show interest to your love interest or he gets a promotion or raise when you think you are doing a better job. You may be significant others but can also be competitors at work. You can also be distracted when you are together. So, best to avoid seeing someone at work. Who knows, if you force the issue at work, your relationship won’t work.
DJ: Different personalities express themselves in different ways. It’s still up to George. Candy can make her subtle moves but not to the point of diluting her strength or independence in any way, shape or form. She’s an adult and I leave the balance up to her. What matters is her feelings do not control her. She’s still in charge.